So, for the majority of my youth, I used to assume that all of these amazing individuals were born geniuses, and I am quite sure that many of you do as well. Some of you may look at these wonderful people and then at his current condition and say, “I will never be like these people, these guys are born geniuses.”
But we frequently forget that we have already mastered the most difficult tasks of our lives: learning to walk and talk. If you see babies, they never decide that something is too tough or not worth the effort; they don’t worry about making errors or humiliating themselves; they walk, fall, get back up, and keep doing it until they succeed.
So, while some of us continue to learn in this manner, the majority of us, as we mature and learn to judge ourselves, begin to be terrified of problems or not being smart. So, here are a few suggestions from the book that I found very useful.
People that are successful are always learning. People who haven’t had much luck want to prove themselves. Most people try to prove to others that they are correct, which means that in every argument they enter, they must ensure that they are correct even if they are not, and then when they lose the argument, they must justify themselves in some way, as one of my friends put it, “I am right not because of what I say but because I am so and so,” and that is the mindset.
But the successful person will reply, “I don’t have to prove myself to anyone; all I have to do is keep learning,” implying that I can learn from anyone and be wrong.
It doesn’t matter; I can still learn. People who are successful are always learning new things. Unsuccessful people appear to be intelligent.
This is one of my favorites, so when most students don’t understand something in class, they keep quiet because they don’t want to appear dumb. They have this mentality that says, “If I ask something, people will know that I didn’t understand, so they will think I’m dumb,” which may sound strange, but it’s what most people believe.
Successful people, on the other hand, don’t waste time pretending to be smart; they recognise that no one is born clever or brilliant, and that people learn by asking questions, so they’ll most likely inquire if they don’t understand something. Successful individuals seek out obstacles to develop themselves, while failed individuals seek out flaws to flaunt.
As a result, “they gave four-year-olds the option of redoing an easy puzzle or trying a harder one.” Those who believed in fixed characteristics stuck with the safe option.
They claimed that smart children “do not make mistakes.” Children who felt you could improve your intelligence, on the other hand, thought it was an odd decision.
Why would anyone want to complete the same puzzle over and over again, they asked? As a result, they chose the more difficult option.
You might be saying the same thing, but most of us have a fixed mindset, which means that if we are comfortable doing something in a certain way, we will do it for the rest of our lives, and if we try something new, the moment we face challenges, we say, “Oh, that’s not for me,” and then we ask for help. We can’t even spend 20 minutes a day reading a book to be mentally stable, and then we ask for help.
So, these are my favourite principles from Carol Dweck’s book Mindset.